Motherhood journey is not on a straight road. It is the whole package of happiness, pride, sacrifices, guilty, frustration, jealous on the partner, what not!! Here are 10 tips to make your journey easy.
- You are important:
I know you love your kid to the core. But take care of yourself first. If you can't take care of yourself, how can you take care of a kid? Many moms lose themselves in pampering their kids. Practically it may not be possible to have regular eating habits, sleeping habits if your kid is super active. But try to get better nutrition and sleep.
- Fix a schedule for the kid:
Try to fit your kid in a schedule. Right from the beginning, I designed a routine for my daughter. Try to fix sleeping, eating, having milk, playing in a time zone. We all have a biological clock set in our body. If you can set that clock, you can rule out reasons for crying.
- Get help from your partner:
Please don't take the sole responsibility of your child. Get some help from your partner or parents or hired nanny.
- Do remember it's a 20 years project :
Is your kid potty trained? Don't worry it's not done yet! Is your kid going to school? It's not done yet. Is your child going to college? No! It's not over yet. Raising kids is a whole packed 20 years project. Be patient. Your responsibility is not over yet!!
- Don't be afraid of child tantrums and anger:
Did your toddler cry on their top voice if you said no them? Yes? Then there is bad news for you. Your child is emotionally blackmailing you. They found your weakness; your weakness is to attend them when they cry. Kids can understand this phenomenon better than you. Sometimes learn to say NO to them. They cry they shout, they will make you guilty (don't underestimate their power!) Don't be in a hurry to attend them, or don't be afraid, that they become violent. Kids may be younger than you, but they know your threshold. They know when you will surely break out. Until then they will throw tantrums. Just bear a few more minutes with them. Surely they will listen to you. Stay strong. Don't surrender to them.
- Stay calm:
When your toddler or kid is throwing tantrums, stay calm and explain them calmly and firmly. There is no way the kid can go out and play until they finish their breakfast. Don't lose your calmness. If you shout or give punishment for everything, your anger has no value in long run. Moreover, if the mother/father gets angry every time, the child will have a bad opinion on patents.
- Know when to lose your control:
Being strict every time will not work out. As a parent, you should know better when to lose your control. You need to let go of rules once in a while. You are a mother, not a military commander or jail superintend.
- Beyond academics:
Anyone can teach them what's the in the books. But you need to teach them what's not in the books. Sharing, giving, morals, in short, teach them "living with society".
- Teach them right communication:
Right from the toddler stage, encourage them to be specific what they want. It helps you in the long run. They need to have clarity of what they want. I tried it on my toddler, and the outcome is, her tantrums reduced to half.
- Best gift:
Spend time with kids. It is the best gift you can give. Some parents show their love by showering gifts, toys and buy whatever kid asks. Buying things or toys or gadgets will not satisfy your kids and they ask for more. But when you spend time with them, your child feels secure. I tried telling stories with my daughter. It worked like a charm!
Every kid is different. Parentcaregiverer knows what exactly the child's mood, his/her limit of holding. In many houses, the mother will be responsible for the child's behaviour. Mothers need to know how to control the reigns.
Happy motherhood!!
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