Let me say, some of you will definitely dislike the title.
"Why should I get married in the predefined period? I have the independence of choosing the time!!" Many of you will feel like this.
Nowadays women are preferring career than getting married. Even though they are married, "settling in life" is becoming the first option than to have kids. I don't say it's wrong.
But you need to consider the following points before you make a decision:
1. Your Body:
It is an open secret that fertility in women will be at peaks at the age of 20-30. Chances of getting pregnant are high in that age. You may ask “There are chances of getting pregnant after 30's too"
There are chances! But the chances are too narrow. You may quote the example of Aishwarya Rai getting pregnant in her 30's. However, she had taken utmost care medically.
The chances will be pretty low as you move towards the late '30s. And also let me assure you will not have the same body as in your early 20's after pregnancy.
Children need mother’s attention, at least till 10years. If you have your first kid at the age of 28-29, the second kid will be at 31-33. If you have your first kid at 23/24 years, even if you plan for another child or stop with a single kid, your energy levels in raising your kid/kids will be sufficient. By the age of 33/34, you will complete the 10years attention criteria.
If you plan kid at 28/29, to complete the 10year attention criteria you will be at 38/39 years. I can be sure your body energy levels will not be the same in your early 40’s as in the early '30s.
2. Mindset
During your young age, that is 23-24; your mindset will be an almost budding stage. You may have strong opinions on things, but you have the accepting capability.
But during 28-29 your mindset becomes stubborn, you are more opinionated. The chances of adjustment are less. Did you notice, by the time you reach 28/29 years you have closed circle of friends &relations? Which means you almost closed doors for new relations. (Excluding who are in the relationship with their partner from childhood/the early '20s).
In this time, if you marry, the differences in opinions will rise. You may think the opinion differences may arise at any age. However, at some age, your ego won't accept defeat!! Isn't it!??
Think about your body and mindset, before you make a decision about marriage. If you can’t accept the body and mind changes, ask your mother, elder sisters, or aunts how they transformed!!
Take a wise decision!
Happy womanhood!!
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Reyally true
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