Motherhood journey is not a cakewalk, especially
for new mothers. They learn a lot during the process, so did I. Being a mother
of a preschooler is different from the mother of a newborn baby. The level of
understanding, communication will be different.
Here are the top 10 things I learnt from my
preschool going, daughter
1. Focus
200% on what you do: Kids involves in any given task with all their
attention. My kid is not exceptional. If they were playing they play with full
consciousness, involvement. I observed we, adults do without any involvement.
Subconsciously we do most of the things in a day. Sometimes it makes me feel
what is the difference between us and a machine? I can say kids live life more
livelily than us. The first thing we need to learn from them.
2. Its
okay not to know everything: My ego never accepts if I don’t
know something. But my kid just smiles and asks how to do, what to do
something. Isn’t it a sweet characteristic we need to learn
3. Interested
in New: New food menu? Excited? New plans? Excited! Change of toys? Excited. New
school? Excited. I wonder how the kids accept change!! Some kids resist, but
they definitely love the change. Did you observe when they were given a new
toy? They have the zeal to learn new things. They will learn, observe the new
things carefully and enthusiastically. They focus on learning. No fear of
failure can threaten them. Change always enrich our lives.
4. Not
forcing things, just relax: When kids got tired they go to sleep. When
they were bored, they will stop doing it. If they don’t like a person, they
will not smile. Kids don’t force things.
5. Live
in the moment: How many times we got tensed about tomorrow? How many time did we
depress about the past? Kids don’t get tensed about tomorrow, doesn’t get
depressed by past. They live today, in the present moment. I think it is the
best quality to learn.
6. Friends
and importance: Did you observe when kids fight; they will not hold grudges between
them. In the next minute, they play again happily. Play happily; concentrate on
the play, not the team members. The best lesson they ever teach you.
7. Being
ON all the time: Right from the moment they open their eyes they will
be active, and in a mood for exploring, learning, joy. Whatever happens, they
will not stop being active all day. If parents told not to do anything, they
may be silent or cry for some time, but they will divert their attention to
other things and be happy again.
8. It is okay to cry at times: They don’t care about
how others feel if they are crying. It is an outlet for their feelings. Medical
studies have proved that crying for adults sometimes will relieve your stress.
It is okay to cry (in the room of course)
9. Not
being judgemental: If I shout at my daughter and after a few
minutes if I pamper her, she will not judge me for being rude. Actually, she
forgets it. Even if I cry in front of her, she will not be judgemental. I can’t
expect any adult to do the same if I react like this.
10. Ask
questions without fear: There were many incidents I didn’t ask
questions, truly out of fear. In front of family, teachers’ friends,
colleagues, shop keepers, I did not talk even if I had a question. “What
will they think?”
“If it was a silly question, my friends
will laugh at me”
“On the first point is this valid
question?”
Like these there are many fears stopped me asking.
But my daughter doesn’t care about how others feel if she had a question, she
can shoot.
These are only a few things I learnt from her. When
she came into my life there are so many things I learnt. Patience,
preparedness, controlling my emotions whatnot. She made me completely a
different person. She made me a good mother and I am proud to say it.
Happy Motherhood!!
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