ADVANTAGES OF BEING STAY AT HOME MOTHER

I wrote this in the view of mothers who have toddlers. 

One of my neighbours asked me why you are not working after your post-graduation?
"I stopped working after delivery, not after post-graduation", I said smiling, "and I prefer to be a stay-at-home mother at least for few years"
She began to say how working will enhance financial stability, contacts and many other things. Then I realised the advantages of being a stay-at-home mother.

1. Watch your kid's every single milestone achievement.
2. Never misses your kid's small detail.

3. The main advantage is, you will be there when your kid is not well.
4. No workplace deadlines, boss stress. You can give complete attention to your kid.

5. You are raising your kid. Yes, no one will be in charge of your kids while you are at work. You can determine what they eat when they sleep, their time table, and the values that are taught. You are in total responsible for their safety.

6. You are the master of the house. The managing household is one of the parts being a stay-at-home mother. Everything in the gone is under your control.

7. Stay-at-home mothers can have more family time. Unlike working mother's you have more time for family gatherings, friends outings.
8. They don't need a gym!! Who said raising a kid is an easy task? In the early age of kids, it's physically draining process. Sit-ups, cardio, and also many poses of yoga are done by mothers. Practically they do not need a gym.

Mother is always a mother, whether it is working or stay at home. Both have their own advantages and disadvantages. But I want to write only the advantages of stay at home mother because I am one!!

Happy Motherhood!!

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MAGIC PILL FOR MY KID: STORYTIME

8.30 PM

“Come dear its bedtime” I called out my daughter.

“No Amma, I want to play for some more time” my 2-year daughter pleaded with her innocent face.

“Do you want a lion story?” I winked at her.

“Yeeesssssssss!!!!!” she came running.

In the next minute, she is on her bed.

I started her favourite story. She asked some thousands of questions during my four-line story and went to sleep.

Stories play an important role in the development of kids. It can enhance their creativity skills. Why I Always say stories to my kid?

I don’t allow my daughter to watch television for hours. So I need something to engage her. So I say stories, talk, play with her most of the time.

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“Amma, come let’s go to bed” called my daughter.

“Just a few minutes baby, I will finish my kitchen work” I said hurriedly.

Finally, she won the argument and we are on the bed. She started telling a story (Plenty of stories) until I started singing her lullaby.

Why Did I start stories?

My daughter’s talking ability started slowly. Even though I used to talk to her daily, I observed she needed more speeches. So using her toys I started tiny puppet shows and gradually started telling stories.

Moreover, I practically saw her talking ability improved and so her storytelling abilities.

During the age of 0.6 to 1 year, my daughter was addicted to mobile phone. She was not ready to eat her food without a mobile. Click here to know how to stop kids’ addiction to mobile

So to divert her I chose storytelling.

How Do I say stories?

She loved the stories!! This made me buy and read so many children books again. Even I stick some post-it notes around my house for the storylines.

I mix her daily activities, good manners, mistakes everything in a story. When she throws a tantrum in the shopping mall, at bedtime I will cook up a lion/tiger story with a baby tiger and indirectly says throwing a tantrum is bad habit. Generally, she understands it. After a few months, I saw a tremendous change in her behaviour.

When Do I start stories?

There is no particular time for stories. I start them depending upon her mood. When she is not in a mood to eat, drink or listen to anything, I don’t bother about the surroundings I start telling the story. Mainly whenever she needs a diversion I will start. I am not a great storyteller before, but I tuned my little one to listen to my stories.

What stories I say?

 Mostly I choose animal-related stories. My daughter likes it very much. In some special cases, I chose human stories. Also at the time, I say stories from Ramayana, Mahabharata and Bhagavatam(She loves the way Rama or Bhima or Hanuman kills the demons). I bought a few books on Panchatantra, which consists of animal-related moral stories. Personally I recommend this book for toddlers.

What is the result?

My daughter speaking abilities boosted from 2 to 10 on a scale after starting storytelling!

I handle her tantrums by diverting her with stories!

She became more creative and started telling stories On her own!

I put her to bed with stories!

I teach her good habits with stories!

 It works like a magic pill for my kid. I hope your kids love this too!!

Happy Motherhood!!

5 TIPS TO LET GO OF MOM'S GUILT

We all know this feeling- most depressing feeling-Mom’s guilt.

This feel comes flooding in to drain us emotionally and consume our thoughts and actions. We feel helpless.

May be our kid is crying out loud in public, we may feel we didn’t set boundaries for them.

May be our kid is not performing well at school, we may feel we hadn’t prepared them for studying.

Whatever the reason, you can’t overcome the guilt feeling, just because we feel the whole responsibility of kid is a Mom.

Mostly we feel guilty for the things we would have done and the things we wouldn’t have done.

Sometimes we shout at them, immediately we regret. Guilt feeling will eat us from inside.

There are five practical ways to fight with a guilty feeling.

1. Be gentle with yourself: 

Dear Moms, you are doing great every time with your kid. Don’t overthink of anything. It is not completely your mistake if your kid doesn’t perform well or if your kid becomes stubborn. But yes there are solutions to every problem. Keeping aside your guilty feeling, try to help yourself and child. Don’t carry the burden all the time. Be gentle with yourself.

2. Make a simple commitment:

For any problem, the solution begins with our commitment. So commit yourself for a single task. “I will spend quality time with my kid this afternoon”  or “ I am not going to shout at my kid today”. Commit for statement and try to stick on it.

3. Make a plan:

In what areas you feel guilty? Be it your mood swings or time spent with them; make a plan to overcome your guilt. Use your time effectively, be balanced with them. Not everything goes as per plan, but without a plan you cannot overcome your problem.

4. Focus on positive things:

Remember one thing, “Every woman is an awesome mother”. There can be a difference in parenting, but we all love our kids in the same way. So not to worry about small failures, focus on positive things.

5. Get help from your partner or family:

To overcome the guilt feeling, talk to your partner and get some help from him. Ask him to spend some quality time with the kid or ask him to deal with the kid when you cannot control your anger. It helps!!

Every mother’s experience is unique in parenting, likewise this mom’s guilt also. It is okay, you are not alone. Every mother experiences this. Being a mother is life changing experience. Take time for yourself!

Be Happy!!

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