Friday, January 31, 2020

5 WAYS TO MAKE YOUR KIDS FINANCIALLY RESPONSIBLE

“The best thing you can give to your child is, financial knowledge” – Robert Kiyosaki
Teaching our kids about saving money is the greatest gift that we can give as parents. However, the lessons should be more than that; because the financial knowledge opens up the gates to their freedom and independence.  Here are a few methods to raise financially responsible children.
1. Teach the value of money:
Depending on their age start teaching the value of money, how it will be useful for their living. In the journey of raising them, do not miss an opportunity to teach the value of money. For example today almost every teenager is using a credit card. But they don’t know how the interest multiplied. When they come to college, the credit amount becomes lump sum. When you give a credit card, teach them how the payable amount multiplies. So that they can know how money works.  
2. Give financial knowledge:
Giving financial knowledge is not transferring adult stress to them. It is giving an outline of your budgets like your expenses, savings, and interest rate. It helps to learn about money and in the long run, they find interest in financial operations. Robert Kiyosaki, the author of the bestselling book, “The Rich Dad and Poor Dad”, is more specific of giving children the knowledge of finance. He says that he learned money importance from his Rich Dad, which bought him success today. He learnt how money works for rich, and how other people work for money.
3. Involve them in budgeting:
Having an open talk with your kid about how you save, how you pay bills on credit cards. Rich dad of Robert Kiyosaki explained the cash flow of liabilities and assets. He explained with the help of blocks diagrams and arrow marks instead of massive charts and accounts. At the age of 10, Robert understood the cash flow. Children understanding ability is more when you speak in their language.
4. Let them experience:
Provide some real money to manage your expenses. For example, take them to grocery shopping and ask them to handle the holiday shopping, let them spend the money. Provide them with your support but let them make choices. Patrick Payne, a professor at Carolina University says that the kids must understand there will be compromises involved. Kids must understand how much we (adults) give up forgetting something else. And there is a cost for everything.
5. Encourage:
As a parent, you need to give encouragement and support while nurturing the child. Even though when they fail in some of their financial actions, encourage and guide them the right way. Teach them to the power of tracking their money. Encourage to pay their bills at the learning age. Educate them to “earn while you learn”. This method not only encourages them to manage their earnings but also handle new challenges.
            The best presentation for a child on their birthday is “Piggybank”. Teach them the importance of savings; encourage them to get interested in financial matters. No matter what you teach the kids, they remember what you DO! So respect the money first by yourself and show that to your kids. Robert Kiyosaki says “Right from the small age my rich dad encouraged me to involve in money doing. That made me realise why money is important.”
Do you think it is important to induce financial responsibility? How will you raise kids financially strong?
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Friday, January 24, 2020

EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT PARENTING A QUEEN


Children come through us to make us happy. Can we let them grow on their own? Can we leave them without guiding them? It is obvious if you have a girl child you will be more cautious. Let us give her wings to fly and strong claws to land. Women are labelled as delicate, patient, soft, and sensitive. Can’t girls be strong, materialistic and cold-hearted? Let us know what makes her different from a delicate princess.
1.      Self-discipline:
Discipline is important for everyone, especially for a lady boss. Discipline will be her superweapon. Promise management and planning in every aspect will make her more influencing personality. 
2.      Self-defence:
Self-defence is not only kicking and punching but also snapping if necessary. Girl boss always wears an invisible shield to protect herself from physical and verbal abuse. 
3.      Handling failures and breakups:
Failures or breakups are inevitable in life. Girl boss needs to handle those failure/breakups with grace.  Let her face those, and let her rise with double speed.
4.      Financial management:
All men think financial management can be only done by them. Still, I know women who give their finding management to their men. But times change!! Teach your little princess how to deal with her treasury. 
5.      Space management:
Do you know one's attitude can be determined by the things one use?  Teach your little girl how to organize, declutter her space. Let it be her favourite dress or failure which is pulling her back, teach her where to place in her wardrobe/mind wardrobe.
6.      How to shut people out:
For a girl in teenage, there will be so many boys who will come forward to help. They casually argue with the young girls for time pass. There are people who give their valuable suggestions in every aspect of her. Queen needs to know what to listen, and she needs to know how to shut them out. She needs to know who to shut out!
7.      Health:
A girl/women are the main pillars for a family, she must be healthy enough to handle a family. "Health is wealth" is an old proverb. You know the value this proverb, only when you are sick. A healthy body gives you a healthy mind; in turn, it gives you confidence. A Queen must be strong physically and mentally.
8.      Balance Work and home:
The big confusion arises when a girl gets married. How to handle both career and home? Dear men note this down. A woman who is balancing her career and home is not an easy task that you can do.  A Queen needs to know where to draw a perfect line between her career and home.
9.      Loving what you do:
We women experience little bit confusion every time. Having guilty consciousness when you leave your kid in a day-care or thinking of your project at home, or guilty feeling when you are having me-time, like this we all experience these kinds of confusion every time. Dear Lady Boss, love what is in your hand at present. Don't think of what happened
10.  Believe in gut feeling:
All the time there is the inner self, which guides us in the right path. Nature has given us a special power; mostly our gut feeling will be 100% sure than men. Believe in that gut feeling.
A Queen knows when to pamper when to punish, and when to surrender. Raising her like a queen is in our hands. Hope your little princess is a queen. Let’s celebrate our girl child and give a boost to her wings.

Friday, January 17, 2020

CHOCOLATE CHIPS IN MY COOKIE

Recently I met one of my old friends after so many years. After a small regular talk, we jumped into our life talk. She is married and working. After knowing my routine, she asked me only one question, "What is your motivation for a day?" 
Then I decided to write about my motivation.
Time 4.10 AM
My alarm rings!!
I open my eyes, but lazily I close it for few more minutes.
Recently I met one of my old friends after so many years. After a small regular talk, we jumped into our life talk. She is married and working. After knowing my routine, she asked me only one question, "What is your motivation for a day?" 
Then I decided to write about my motivation.
Time 4.10 AM
My alarm rings!!
I open my eyes, but lazily I close it for few more minutes.
4.15 AM
"Enough of laziness!! Get up!! “inner me shouts
My motivation for getting up early is the uninterrupted bathroom visit. 
4.40 AM
I will fresh up and complete bathing too, and I will be on the yoga mat soon. After some meditation and basic stretches, I roll up my mat. 
The thing which pushes me for yoga is my mental health.
5.00 AM
I start making rotis and curry for husband's lunch. Some dal for our lunch, and prepare chutney or curry for dinner.
My daughter’s breakfast will be mostly like idly the solid breakfast. Sometimes I will have idly too, but most of the times I make other breakfast. And I prepare coffee for us.
Energy giver is My family's hunger. 
6.30 AM
I light diyas in my prayer room (I must say it is prayer shelf because we don't have Mandir) 
Early morning sunrise with the smell of agarbattis and haratis will boost my mood. 
The boost for doing this is for my positive energy. 
6.45 AM
I enjoy my warm ginger tea, with the soothing wind in my balcony, or at times with my daughter's morning orchestra. 
Here is my pill for an energetic morning: ginger tea.
7.00 AM
I pack lunch for my husband and he leaves for the office. I will make my kid brush her teeth, drink milk, bathe, braids her & my hair, make sure she finishes her breakfast and pack her snacks for her school. Then I finish my breakfast. I will drop her to school and come back at 9.30 AM.
The calming mantra here is my daughter's school time.
9.30 AM-12.30 PM
I do some dishes which I left in a hurry, cleans my daughters and my husband's mess. After that dusting the living room, making the bed, doing laundry, searching the damp towels which they both left, doing work on the laptop,  picking up the toys and books, watering plants, cleaning the kitchen, will be my daily routine. Generally, I wouldn't miss the routine. 
Here anti-fatigue motivation is slight OCD and love for plants.
12.30 PM- 5.00 PM
Bringing my kid from the school, feeding her and helping her to complete her homework and then I go back to my work. My kid will be playing, or reading or watching tv while I complete my work. 
Here my driving force is quality time with my daughter. 
5.15 PM
Taking my daughter to the nearest park is my daily duty. I love watching sunset and kids playing there. I do some walking there. 
I don't miss this opportunity for watching the sunset.
6.30 PM
We will come back from the park and my husband comes back from the office. I offer my evening prayers and I feed my Daughter dinner and also we finish our dinner before 7.30 PM
Here my no-routine-breaking motivation comes from the phrase early dinner for health. 
While I finish kitchen cleaning, my husband spends time with my daughter. She cleans up all the mess she made while playing with me in the living room. 
9.00 PM
We put her to bed at 9 PM. She likes to hear bedtime stories, with lots of yawing and questions in between she goes to sleep. 
Here my secret of sleeping early is I need to get up early.
Like this, many chocolate chips motivates me to have a regular cookie, from a smell of camphor to watching the sunset. Yes, I get bored at times. Then is the time I change my path without changing my daughter's routine. At the end of the day what wipes away my tiredness is my daughter's hug, which is her way of saying "thanks for a beautiful day". 
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Friday, January 10, 2020

TYPES OF GUESTS IN INDIA


Disclaimer: The opinions written in this post are only for fun. Not to hurt anyone feelings.

“Athidhi Devo bhava” the slogan we Indians literally follow.
 It says the guest is equal to God, the host needs to treat them the same. Not all the time we can host with a warm heart. Some guests are helpful, some are irritating, and some people force us to leave the place. Let’s have a look at the types of people behaves as guests:
1. Nosy:
They say the sky is the limit. Whatever the issue is, whether it is a discussion after 10th classpath or decision of marriage, they can poke their nose. In addition to that, they give their valuable advice. They might be feeling it is our home and interested in everyday life.  Is it so irritating? Yes of course!! You cannot like the people who are asking even your kitchen cumin seeds brand also.
Our inner voice will be “Can you keep your dirty nose out of us?? We have some private things to do!!”

2. Angry:
Only God knows why they are angry always. They don’t like the place where we place the glass; they don’t like the way we walk or talk. They always question our lifestyles. In general, these people will be elderly, and we cannot argue with them (Thanks to parents who said it is rude to argue with elders).

3. Helping:
Helping people is one in a million. If we are lucky, the one will be at our guests!!
They help with handling our kids while we are serving, lend a helping hand in the kitchen.

4. Cunning:
What to say about this type? Most of the guests come under this type. I hope all of you can relate to this point. The cunning nature is not serious, but you can smell in their voice. I think God has made their tongue with two layers.  They can talk about anything in front of us.

5. Unknown:
These people can be seen only in wedding s and big functions, they come, ask how we are doing, offer their valuable advice, even at times offer their help. After weddings or functions, they abscond. We cannot recognize them if we were away from functions for a long time. Their standard dialogue will be “Be in touch with us, there will be no relationship without communication. Do come to our home once”
Our inner voice will be “By the way, who the hell are you?’’

5. Jealous
Jealousy is the inbuilt emotion for everyone. But these people can be jealous even if we buy a new cell phone. They use statements like “Is it a new model?” “How much do you make a month?” “You are looking good in this dress”. We can sense their jealousy, even if they talk sweet.

6. Irritating:
Not all guests are irritating. But there are few who can irritate by their name itself. They can’t understand our moods, our situation; they keep on asking questions and need answers immediately. They can ask embarrassing questions in public and poke for the answers. One of my cousins was sleeping when a granny came. Granny was expecting a warm welcome from their family. All the family members greeted her, except my cousin (who is sleeping). Granny literally woke her up and asked: “Are you sleeping, dear?”

7. Flirty:
If you are a girl, you may experience flirting from young boys (of the same age). But the unexpected is from old uncles too. You cannot say this is sexual harassment, but you cannot complain about either. They wear an affection mask for the flirting.

8. Calm:
Guests are talkative. As we don’t meet them daily, they will be talkative. Calm guests are rarest of rare. But these are harmless, talk to the point people.

10. OCD:
Did you ever have them in your house? If a person with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder visits us for Dusshera or Sankranthi, you cannot celebrate the festivals. I am dead sure about this. They are eager to teach us the importance of cleanliness and pity us for being dirty all the time.

11. Verbal diarrhoea:
No offence anyone!!! This disease kills us. These people boast, boast, boast about what they/their children have achieved. These people are the exact opposite to calm people.
“You know my son dances very well, even Mr.Prabhudeva asked for his performance”
“Not all get a job after graduation, my daughter got. Maybe your child needs more talent?”
“We bought a house with 1 crore”
“We usually travel in flight
Usually, our inner voice will be “What should we do now?”

12. Too much frank:
“Your  tea making skills are like tea saucer”
“I will be honest, you need to have the talent to crack this exam, work hard”
“Don’t take it personally; this attire is not the apt one to wear.”
They express their opinions very frankly, they make us believe that they were right all the time and they expect to say “yes you are right and sorry for doing it”.
Never know what happiness they can get from this.

13. Wealthy
Whatever our financial status is, there will be one who is above our financial status. These people fall under two categories, helpful and boasting. I think there is nothing to explain, you all might have experienced how they would be!!

I will stop with these 13 types because you all know what number 13 symbolises. Sometimes we become a guest the others. So try to be helpful and calm!!
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Friday, January 3, 2020

HOW MY LIFESTYLE CHANGED AFTER KIDS

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Becoming a mother changes everything; this is the statement you may have heard every day by many mothers. I do accept you may have responsibilities and sleepless nights., which can change your routine and lifestyle. These are 20 things my daughter has changed
1. Food:
I am not a foodie from the beginning. But I learnt how the mood of cook can have an effect on recipients. I changed my food interests to healthy, easily digestible and homemade food from junk and spicy food.
2.  Sleep:
Ha!!! My sleep timing completely changed when my daughter was born. Every mother experiences it. I was a night owl before, but now I wake up early to complete kitchen chores before she wakes up.
3.  House:
This didn’t change. Previously I used to make a mess around the house, now my kids do that!!! But the difference is now I wanted to make it less clumsy. Previously I didn’t even think about it.
4.  Organizing mentality:
Once in a while, I used to organize my room. Now I am on a mission to clean in every 1 hour. I became intolerant for seeing a mess around now!! (Being a mother changes everything)
5. Patience:
What to talk about this? Every mother says this and needs patience. After becoming a mother your patience levels increase suddenly, even if you are a very short-tempered person.
6. Bathroom:
You can never expect you will have an audience for your every toilet visit. If you shut your bathroom door for a few minutes, your kids ring an emergency bell.  Their tantrums, needs, urgencies, potties all will be summed up in that few minutes.
7. Parties/functions:
You will go to a party and attend your kid all the time. No question about interacting with others. If you have a slight amount of luck, your kid might get friends there, and your kid likes them. You must attend all the children’s ( your kid's friends) birthday parties and you sing the happy birthday song in sync with the kids. You wear crazy birthday hats and props.  How life changes!!!
8. Clothing:
I became more conscious of dressing after giving birth to my kid. When she was a month’s baby, I used to select a very soft fabric, usually cotton.  Still, I am continuing that. Generally cotton is the best fabric for your mood as a mother. I wonder how it would understand my feelings!! It will be light, non-irritating even in the mid-summer, comfortable. Even if my temper raises to the boiling point, my dresses will not be the reason for it. After having a baby, my vision of clothing has changed.
9. Watching TV/mobile:
One of the best things that happened in my life is getting out of this addiction to both TV and mobile. I was an addict before, but to reduce my kid’s screen time, I stopped using these. Now I can proudly say I reduced my screen time, all because I am a mother.
10. Travel:
 Before kids, I used to travel like anything. Without any pre-bookings, an instant journey has thrilled me. Now I don’t want to go anywhere without my kid’s comfort. She is never ready to sit at one place if we take a day train or a flight, it is a nightmare!!! It is not as easy as you think.
11. Routine
Who doesn’t change their routine after kids? My sleep timings, cooking, cleaning, working all are changed. Before I used to be less organised and systematic, depending on my mood. But now my routine is more disciplined, and more organized during my routine
12. Not first any more
Being the only daughter, I was the first to touch the chocolates or desserts. Time changes!!! Now voluntarily I give her fort priority.
13. More confident:
I felt more confident than ever when I reached the milestones of my kid. Whether it is handling her tantrums in public or training her to behave or getting everything ready before she asks, I felt more confident.
14. More strength:
I never thought I can manage time like this, I can be mentally strong like I am now. I can do these many tasks within no time. Previously I was very emotional. But now even if I see an injury for my little one, I am more strong to not to cry. Where this strength does come from?
15. Pushed my limits:
Before I thought I was very weak to go 3 hours without meals. Now I can go for 12 hours without meals and very active. I used to be very less active when I am sleepy, now I can be super active without sleep for 24 hours.  I pushed my limits after being a mother.
16. Change of habits:
From  late-night movies to talking, I change many habits. I read stories, I stopped using mobile, I was very conscious about speaking words, all because, I should be a role model to my daughter. She learns from my actions more.
17. More respect for parents:
During childhood, I don't know what my mother has sacrificed for me, what my father sacrificed to pay my bills. Now I came to understand, why they were worried all the time for me, what they did for me.
18. Complaints on partner
 “ Why don’t you play with her for some time?”
“ Don’t make a mess while feeding her”
“It's not the way to change a diaper”
“ I am here at home all day, I need some fresh air, are going to take me out or not?”
“Don’t sit like that, help me in the kitchen”
Mothers, aren’t these complains seems familiar??
We start complaining more on our partner even if we love him...It’s obvious.
19. Friend talks changed:
Before we used to talk about crushes, life and had fun. Now, we are discussing pre-schools, snack box recipes for kids, home remedies for cold and cough.
20. Healthier diet :
Even if I was allergenic to some kinds of food, I couldn’t control and used to eat it. Now I am more disciplined about food. If I get sick, no one will be there to attend my kid. So I eat healthily and try to be healthy.
Even if I like or don’t like the changes happen, I loved my lifestyle and my baby too.

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