I CAN..!!!

"Can you solve this problem?”, asked Mathematics teacher.

“ Yes!! I can”, replied an average student.

The student became mathematics topper in that school.

“With this type of revision you cant crack exam”, said a relative sarcastically.

“ Yes. I will crack”, she muttered under her breath.

She got admission in business administration in a top college.

“Will you ever get a job?”, Her cousin asked.

“ Yes I will”, looking directly into their eyes.

She got a job!!

“How can you survive after these many rejections?”, asked the image in the mirror.

“I can survive”, she assured the image.

Her comeback inspired most of her friends.

The only thing that made everything possible in the above situations is self-confidence. It can overcome all difficulties, Heartbreaks, failures, fears. The most essential thing in a person’s life.

20 THINGS YOU DO WHEN YOU ARE LAZY

Laziness, what to write as an introduction? As I am one of them, I just jump into the things we do:

1. Pen Vs Pencil:

In school days, I used to hate pencil. I was excited when I used pens, just because I thought it is a waste of time to use an eraser.

2. Stick vs Remote:

Do you remember the old model television? This can be used both by remote and manually. When the remote is not working, who will go to the television set and press the volume or program buttons? We used a stick to operate.

3. Helping hand:

All the family knows that we are lazy just because we were so busy to get up and switch on the fans/lights (Ofcourse at this time we are in another energy-saving mode). So mean!!

4. Ironing:

Most of us hate the phase of ironing clothes. How Dhobi survives?

5. Organising:

Generally, we don’t shift places of things, its waste of time to search for them.

6. Planning:

When we go out to buy anything, let's say some groceries, we can find out what other things can be done during the trip. Don’t underestimate our planning.

7. Meals:

Some people can be so lazy, that even eating thrice will harm their laziness. By only single meals a day also they can survive. However, they are always in energy-saving mode.

8. Boon:

Thank God there are online services are available for almost everything. The services are boon to us. From groceries shopping to finding a carpenter can be done in mobile itself.

9. Conference calls vs parties:

Party? Sorry, who will travel to the venue? Conference calls are better than parties. (This is a desire of lazy introvert)

10. No gear:

It can be a boy or girl; we prefer auto gear bikes than geared ones. Gear changing also an energy-sucking task.

11. Shortcuts:

This can be related to most of the students. They prefer to enjoy the remaining year than to study, just before 1 month or a week or 1- day before exams they can read. That is a skill. Why don’t you people appreciate it?

12. Holidays are holidays:

I love my country. And I love my country by being at home. I can watch flag hoisting on television, now even in mobiles. So why should I come to school/college? ½ day of standing under the sun, listening to the speeches, only positive thing you get during that day is sweets. I can eat at home too. Coming to sports day, what is that anyway?

13. Energy-efficient:

At times, there will be no helping hand for us. During cold mornings, we need to reduce the speed of the fan or switch it off. We are so lazy to get up to reach the switch, we take 2 or3 blankets instead.

14. Group posting:

If you want to message a person in WhatsApp, but in your infinite chats you cannot find the person, and you send it in group chat. How many of you did this?

15. Revolving chairs:

In the office, if you want to move the next-to-the-next-cabin, you use the revolving chairs. Why can’t we use that at home too? I request from all lazy persons, instead of couches use these revolving chairs. Easy to use, easy to travel from one room to other!!!

16. Slide bar:

All of you say lazy persons are fit-for-nothing. We can give you time-saving and energy-saving ideas. Instead of stairs, you discovered lift. For getting down the stairs, it is better to use a slide.

17. Fitness:

See, we eat only once, mostly we get energy from our meditation(some people term it as sleeping). How yogis in the Himalayas get their energy for a living? That is only through meditation, not by eating food or drinking water. We also follow the same. Moreover, the yogis are very fit, did you see any yogi or sadhu with obesity? No. We too go in the same way.

18. Alexa:

Google is great. We accept it. But Alexa is awesome!! Yes! You got my point. We don’t need to type for Alexa. Alexa can switch off lights too. I strongly recommend improving technology.

19. Power check:

What do you do to check whether the power is there or not? You switch on the light/fan or you check the inverter lights. What do we do? We simply switch on the wi-fi in our mobile. And simply we message someone in WhatsApp. If it is sent, power is there. As I said earlier, we are smart!

20. The most iconic:

If the doorbell rings, we just pretend to get up so that others would move.

Finally, I wanted to say, please let us be us. We are not useless people as you think. We are the most organized, talented, and skilled than you.

What are your ways of laziness??

“Progress isn't made by early risers. It's made by lazy men trying to find easier ways to do something.”
― Robert Heinlein

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GRANNY'S TALES - PART-1

Most of us were associated with grandmothers. They were like our mother. As for my grandmother, she used to be very strict yet warm. Very ferocious, yet calm. Very traditional, yet she accepted our modernity. They saw life from their granny’s age to us and maybe our children too. (Here I’m talking about an average situation). They are the only people who can pass our traditional knowledge from our ancestors to us.

Especially in India, the traditions and the knowledge is transferred only through chores done in our daily life. Grandparents we know are generally nagging about the olden days and very strict about their routine. However, the routine is the thing which they learnt from their elders, which gave them a healthy body and mind too. And now, we have enough proofs that there is a scientific reason behind every Indian tradition. Grandparents are people made this tradition as their habit. So I wanted to expose ideas of my granny on various things.

Today I will focus on the perception of granny on “TOUCH”.

My grandmother is very particular about the things she touched.  She always reminded me to wash hands after combing my hair. At that age, I was not interested either to wash or to listen to her words. After becoming a mother and a homemaker now I understood why the hair is so bad thing to touch. Today every corner of my home you can find small pieces of hair, which is irritating. The home is not clean enough if your hair is not on your head. Now I understand why she insisted to wash hands after combing hair, touching comb, hair. There will be small hair strands which will get attached to our hand when we touch hair or comb. Washing removes extra hair strands which are on our hands or comb.

Her rule for the touch is broomstick, feet and face. When we touch the broomstick same logic applies, the dirt on the broomstick will be on our hands, which should be washed immediately.  She used to say always “Don’t touch your feet all the time”. I used to think that is okay if my feet are clean enough. But my granny was wise enough to know about microorganisms.

Once my granny said, “Don’t place your hands on your face always”, with a harsh tone. I asked why. What she said made me spellbound. “You will place your hands here and there; you may think your hands are clean. Your facial skin is more sensitive when compared to remaining skin. If you place your rough hands on face, the facial skin becomes rough and your facial pores will be filled with mud. Moreover, my queen should look good.”

Another concern is not to touch the rice vessel during our meals. In many of our traditional houses, we still follow it. We don’t touch curry vessel right after touching the rice vessel. It is not like rice vessel is dangerous or anything. But Cooking rice has separate formula than making curries or sambhar. The whole point is cooked rice should not get affected by the other tastes and spices. Moreover, the water used for cooking rice (which is used as porridge) can become residue and viscous. So my granny usually touches some water or washes her hands after using the rice vessel.

My granny’s touch-hand washing list will not end here. She used to take a bath even after completing kitchen chores. I was surprised when I came to know that she takes a bath 3 times a day. I used to mock her for washing hands after touching certain things. But now I came to know what the importance of washing hands is. (Of course by the western doctors’ suggestions). She was far more intelligent than western PhD doctors. Love you granny!!

Do comment your memories with your granny.

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HOME?

"When are you going to your home?" Kumar asked Sandhya. 

"Next Wednesday" Sandhya answered. 

When Kumar left for the office, Sandhya went to deep thoughts. Why Kumar has mentioned 'your' home? When you are married it is more like 'our' home. Sandhya's parents and in-laws live in town. Sandhya is a homemaker, during her kids’ summer holidays she visits her home town. 

From the past 8 years, her in-laws and her husband will call it is her house. Her parents and relatives call her in-laws house as ‘Her’ house. Sometimes she does not understand, if she has 2 homes, but feeling homeless.

Her in-laws say

“ It is not the way we deal in our house”

“Please don’t bring your home rules to this house”

“Don’t forget to take this while going to your home?”

Sandhya is confused. When you marry a person, and you are ready to accept their family as yours, building new relationships between the families, she is ready to call her in-laws home as “our” home, why can’t Kumar calls her parents home as our home. Why he always say it is “your” home?

It doesn’t mean that Kumar is a bad person. Kumar is an open-minded, caring and loving husband. And her in-laws are also warm and friendly. However, they refer to her parents’ house as hers. Every time they say this, a question arises. Is that house is not Kumar’s? If she can own this house mentally and verbally, why not Kumar can own that house?

She is okay when they say your parents’ home. But when they say it is your home, she has a problem.

Whenever she is sick, she cannot ask her Mom-in-law to make her an extra cup of tea. She cannot ask her Father-in-law to bring sanitary pads. She can’t ask her husband to help her with extra chores at home, because of guests, because she doesn’t want to give an extra burden over his office work. There are times she got a thought that does she belong here? Even when she and in-laws are moving freely. If it was her parents’ home, she can get up lazily at 10’O clock. Especially, for this reason, she missed her home.

This is only one side of a coin. The other side is her parents.

But ironically, whenever she comes to her parents home, her parents, aunts, siblings say

“How is everyone at your home?”

“How do you do things at your home”

She spent 25 years at that home, still, she is considered as outsider after marriage. What if she was born as a boy? Then would she consider that home as hers?

She was born in that house. She loved the people in that house, and they loved her. The people in that house have been with her in kith and kin till her marriage. Now her mother is making special dishes, her father is bringing special ice cream, her brother is crying when Sandhya leaves. She is happy when they express their love, but the indirect meaning, a you-will-not-be-with-us-for-too-long message is disturbing her. Even though she is compromised that she can’t be there for a long time, will that imply she is just a guest every year?

She can’t own her parent’s home as hers now. However, she cannot own her in-laws home also, as there are some invisible boundaries drawn for their relation. It is not like she is not comfortable or doesn’t get love at both the homes, still, she feels like she is homeless sometimes.

As Indian women, her heart will be 50% at her parents and 50% at her husband and in-laws. Is this where the flickering of emotions start in a women’s life, just like Sandhya?