5 TIPS TO LET GO OF MOM'S GUILT

We all know this feeling- most depressing feeling-Mom’s guilt.

This feel comes flooding in to drain us emotionally and consume our thoughts and actions. We feel helpless.

May be our kid is crying out loud in public, we may feel we didn’t set boundaries for them.

May be our kid is not performing well at school, we may feel we hadn’t prepared them for studying.

Whatever the reason, you can’t overcome the guilt feeling, just because we feel the whole responsibility of kid is a Mom.

Mostly we feel guilty for the things we would have done and the things we wouldn’t have done.

Sometimes we shout at them, immediately we regret. Guilt feeling will eat us from inside.

There are five practical ways to fight with a guilty feeling.

1. Be gentle with yourself: 

Dear Moms, you are doing great every time with your kid. Don’t overthink of anything. It is not completely your mistake if your kid doesn’t perform well or if your kid becomes stubborn. But yes there are solutions to every problem. Keeping aside your guilty feeling, try to help yourself and child. Don’t carry the burden all the time. Be gentle with yourself.

2. Make a simple commitment:

For any problem, the solution begins with our commitment. So commit yourself for a single task. “I will spend quality time with my kid this afternoon”  or “ I am not going to shout at my kid today”. Commit for statement and try to stick on it.

3. Make a plan:

In what areas you feel guilty? Be it your mood swings or time spent with them; make a plan to overcome your guilt. Use your time effectively, be balanced with them. Not everything goes as per plan, but without a plan you cannot overcome your problem.

4. Focus on positive things:

Remember one thing, “Every woman is an awesome mother”. There can be a difference in parenting, but we all love our kids in the same way. So not to worry about small failures, focus on positive things.

5. Get help from your partner or family:

To overcome the guilt feeling, talk to your partner and get some help from him. Ask him to spend some quality time with the kid or ask him to deal with the kid when you cannot control your anger. It helps!!

Every mother’s experience is unique in parenting, likewise this mom’s guilt also. It is okay, you are not alone. Every mother experiences this. Being a mother is life changing experience. Take time for yourself!

Be Happy!!

Enjoy motherhood!!

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WHAT IF BABIES CAN SPEAK?

Babies can give expressions without words. If the expressions have words, it will be like this:

1.  If a stranger wants to kiss the baby, she says
"Stop there! Who are you pulling my cheeks?"

2. This line is definitely for people who think they can make laugh babies
"Mumma! Is this fellow have a constipation problem? He is making irritable faces".

3. Every mother can hear this
"Let's have quality time together. It is just 1AM"

4. If the father comes to help, the babies say,
"Hey man! I don't need a change of diaper. I want food. Call her!"

5. Whenever others wanted to help the mother with baby, they say
"Please stop singing. You are terrible!! Call my mom".

6. They know the right time to poop
"Changing diaper? Is it the right time to poop?"

7. Babies think everything is same
"Oops!! I thought it was a burp"

8. "I don't drink!! I chew!!"
Be it a bottle or nipple!!!

9. "I don't look like anybody! Don't scan me."

For the people who scan for the similarities.

10. Every mother experiences it
 "I don't need your milk, woman!!
      After 5 Minute: I am starving!! Why don't you feed me Mom? "

11. When you attend a family function or a party
"Everyone present? Let me cry"

12. "Inedible? I need a taste"

New mothers welcome to the new mom club!!

Happy Motherhood!!
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10 EASY WAYS TO CONTROL YOUR TODDLER CELL PHONE ADDICTION

Recently our friends with families attended a function. I saw kids between 1-5 years kids are with either cell phone/tablet. No one was paying attention to the outside world. In the lunchtime, it is even worse. Kids watching their phone, moms/dads were feeding them. God knows what they ate! Even I came from that situation. Here are some tips to divert your kids' attention from digital devices

1. First mothers: Mothers will be highly influential on their kids. So be a role model to your kid. You stop using the mobile phone in front of them. It sounds a bit harsh, but if you want to digitally detoxify your kid, you need to sacrifice your phone time.

2. Both the parents and people within the house: Even if your partner or other family members residing in your house, learn to hide phones or stop using phones if the kids are around. Spend time with them. Talk to them. They can say things that are more enjoyable than in your gadgets.

3. Know their peak time: Most of the time kids use gadgets during their mealtime, or in the evening time or when they get bored. Know their peak time first. Prepare what to do at that time.

4. Know their interests beyond cell phone: My daughter was very fond of colours during her 2^nd year. So I got whatever I can. Crayons, watercolours, colour pencils, sketch pens. It became a little messy, but it worked. She started colouring books, faces in newspapers and I gave strict instructions that her drawings should be only on paper. Likewise, know your kids' interest, it can be painting, counting, any stories (This also worked for me). I made her sit in the balcony and we started staring at the people who were passing by, we saw all the crows, squirrels, pigeons, even ants, flies, but it worked.

5. Get creative: Create any play or create a toy using cardboards, bottles, or anything you see. Give those plastic water bottles and some grains and ask them to play. It can gain you some time.

6. Don’t expect overnight results: Gradually reduce the time with gadgets, not all at a time. You cannot get overnight results.

7. Gradually reduce the screen time: Check the usage time. Gradually lessen 10 minutes a day. When you start reducing screen time from day 1, you only get tantrums. Kids cannot accommodate the new change; it may lead to permanent hatred towards physical activity.

8. Use parental control: Use parental control for your mobile phone. There are many apps which lock by themselves for a specific time period.

9. Practice secret screen time: Parents, if you can’t control your screen time, practice secret screen time. During their nap time or in the restroom, you should not be visible to kids with the phone.

10. Make days count: Make every day a special day for kids like gardening day, cleaning day, washing day, game day, painting day, crafting day, nature day, letter day, puzzle day. Not only these you can create many more chores with kids.

The important tip to reduce the screen time is to lessen mom’s screen time and patience. You all know the side effects of giving cell phones to children. So try to reduce that and enjoy with your kid.

Happy Motherhood!!!

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