STRUCK!!!

A skype call of three college friends after a decade of their graduation.

"Hi all", said Laxmi,"How are you doing". Laxmi is a working woman with a kid.

"All good" said Sandhya. She is a homemaker with 2 kids.

"After long time", asked lalitha, with slightly American accent. She resides in USA.

"It's been two months we spoke to each other, you and Laxmi might be in touch", said Lalitha about Sandhya.

"We may seem to be in same time zone, but her timings are different from me", said Laxmi merrily.

"Don't blame me, you will be busy until Lalli calls us", said Sandhya in a self defence mode. 

"Okok..no fightings!! What else Sandhya, I saw your drawings in your whatsapp status. Any new ones?"

Sandhya showed her new drafting to her friends. 

"And Lalli, when are you planning to come to India?",both of them asked.

"Not this year, my husband is planning a trip to Europe." Said Lalitha.

"A good news from my side too. We bought a new car a week back", Laxmi showed her new car to her friends. 

Later they spoke about cars,europe trips,kids achievements for another half an hour and hung up.

Laxmi:

Sandhya is lucky, she has time for kids and also she has time to pursue her hobbies. I am struck up with this job, except on the salary day I don't find any good about this. I am struck in this cage forever.

Laxmi lost in her thoughts about last week how she couldn't attend a family function, while her cousins enjoyed that function. Rest of the day she is thinking of Sandhya.

Lalitha:

Laxmi is lucky, her parents stay with her. I need to wait for another one and half year to process visa for my parents, next year Arvind's (husband)parents will be visting us. Now I couldn't go back to India, as my son's education cannot be changed. I am struck in this cage forever!!

She is thinking about her friends how they are fortunate to be in India, with parents and domestic helps.

Sandhya:

I shouldn't have left my career. Since morning to midnight, I take responsibility of everything in this house, but everyone thinks I am sitting ideally at home. Just to get some time for myself, forcibly I am taking off from these household chores. No recognition no salary, I am struck in this cage!!

She is thinking about how they are financially independent her friends are.

Still their lives went on...

THINGS INTROVERTS DO!!

"Send me your phone number to add it in our community whatsapp group." My neighbour called out after our society meeting. I smiled and gave thumbsup. After reaching home, I sent my husbands number to her to add in society whatsapp group. I hi-fied mentally to myself for avoiding all the discussions. Then I wanted to write what other things we introverts do!!

• Avoid college and office functions by making an excuse that I'm terribly ill.
• Any special occasions and festivals. Deactivate facebook to avoid unnecessary tagging.

• Sharing is confined to “only me” on face book.
• Uncheck read recipts on whatsapp.

• Anybody calls, wait till call ends by itself and make an excuse that phone was in charging or silent.

• Prefer early mornings or mid nights, which will be peaceful time while everyone is sleeping.

• Whenever relatives visits, going into kitchen and do anything or else bury my head in a book or cellphone.
• In Group chats maintain a good name as sleeping member.
• We like savasana in yoga more than any pose.
• Any compulsary birthday wishes? Wish them personally on text rather than in Group.
• Talk to self in every situation.
• Maintaining journals.. Digital or dairies
  
• Inner me is more sarcastic than outer me.
• Need to take decision? Talk to self or write the possible outcomeson paper, make statistics, do calculations or even trigonometry on paper and make a decision.

• Introverts prefer writing or reading than talking or posting in social media.
• Weekend plans? Eat. Read. Sleep. Repeat.
• Change of plans? Stare at wall or ceiling for hours.


Introverts have an opinion on everything, but they don't believe in expressing. It's not about fear or unknown thing. But for the love for themselves.
Happy introverting!!

WHAT KIDS WANT FROM PARENTS?

When the lockdown continued and schools were shut down, I got time (may be more) to spend with my child and observe her needs.

1. Time:

Who doesn't want time? The more time you give them, the more confident they grow. Spend time with them. When the lockdown extended, I thought some screen time will let my daughter happy. I was wrong!! She likes spending more time with me. Whenever I let her watch some cartoons on laptop, while I was doing some chores,  she always asks me when will I finish my work. Even the reason behind her crankiness is, not spending enough time with her in a day. 

2. Touch:

Our antropology says, we have an animal nature in expression of love, that is by touch. The important communication between parents and child in the early ages. Appropriate touch like hug, pat on the back, can speak more than words. 

3. Trust:

I don't believe parents should be with kids in every situation. However, when they truly need parents, parents should be there to count on. When your kid come and say "my friend broke my toy", how many of you questioned " what did you do first?". Yes it is the first question we ask them, which gives them a message 'I am not trusting you'. When they jump off the sofa and get hurt, we say "I said, you will break your leg, don't jump here after" intead of " Careful". Is it how we show our trust? Show the trust you have, as a parent you know where to draw the line between adventure and danger!

4. Security:

Many incidents happening around us, which made parents trust no one(sometimes father/mother also). Physical, psychological and sexual security are needed. When ever a kid gets hurt psychologically or physically their first go-to must be his/her parents. If a child thinks, 'my problem makes no sense to my parents', is it not a parenting failure?

5. Positive environment:

Imagine the situation of parents always fighting with each other or bad mouthing about others, those are never positive signs for kids. Kids always learn from how parents behave/talk, not what parents taught them. Using bad words, or bad behaviour around them should not be allowed. Because we are producing next generation, we need to filter some of our core opinions or behaviours which may cause damage to them. But the saddest part is even the parents don't know their behaviour will cause adverse effects. I will discuss this point in some other time. As of know, we need to give the kids happy childhood, without any childhood traumas. I know a girl whose parents used to fight infront of her daily in her childhood. The fight between them may be small one and they may compromise after that, however the child couldn't forget the incident. As she grew she always had trust issues with every person she met.

6. Story:

I think story telling will be most effective communication with children. Usually I summarise my child's behavior in a day and I give ideas, or suggestions or sometimes the results through stories. Seehere for how story time worked for me kid. 

I accept parenting is not one-size-fit-for-all. There will be mistakes, there will be warm moments, there will be adventures, there will be don't know what to do times. But as a parent we wanted to give best to children. Try to include the above list along with what you give. 

OPINIONS ON DAUGHTERS!!!

Friends:

“What type of friends do you have, they don't even wear bindi on their forehead!!!”

“Stay away from boys!! You don't know how they will change..”

Education:

“Do engineering!! You will settle soon.. Doctors will get married in late 20’s. Yours will be late marriage. Marriage is important for a girl”

“Education loan!!! What are you talking?? Will you go to your in law's house with loan. How can we face them? Dont even think of that!! Stop studying.”

Relation:

“What people will think?”

“ Manavallena? ( Is he from our caste?)”

Marriage:

“How many years you will study? First get married, after that do what ever you want”

“Still you are allowed to sleep with stranger, but don't marry whom you love”

Kids:

“You should be planning for kids, its 1month since you got married.”

“You are more naughtier than your kids. Dont blame them”

Makeup: 

Behind us: "Look how gaudy her lipstik is!!"

Infront of us: Beta your lipstick is too good!!

BEGINNERS GUIDE FOR HOME SCHOOLING

Schools might reopen in september or october, many parents are in confusion whether to send their preschoolers to school or not. Parents who are comfortable with online classes may not prefer this article, but if are looking for home schooling options, then you are on right site. 

I started home schooling my kindergarten kid this year. When I started, I had lots of questions and practical problems, because I was not confident about my teaching skills at that time. Overcoming the problems one by one I got some hope that I can teach my child. Let me share my experiences with you, it might help some of you with an idea of home schooling.

• Start where you are:

When I searched for home schooling options, and its requirements, I got suggestions to buy a printer, coloured charts, and many other pre requisites. But during the initial lockdown, for me it was practically impossible to buy even coloured charts.  So, I used crayons and color pencils which I already had, and some of the un used cardboards for teaching my kid. I used live vegetables and fruits instead of charts. I used sky and clouds for explaining weather. So dont be scared of starting your home school, you can start with what you have. 

• Take help:

If you don't have any idea of their curriculum, take help from the internet or their school teachers. Mostly for preschoolers, writing skills and identifying are important aspects to throw light on. So I found it easy.

• Go with the pace of your kid:

One of the best thing about home schooling is the teacher can go in student pace. You can personally check and teach them according to their interest and ability to learn. I designed a time table, according to her interest I start schooling.

• Timely evaluation:

Generally in the schools, the evaluation will be done quarterly, monthly, or yearly. But when you are schooling at home you can get clear idea where your child lags or where they can excel.

• It's okay to break!!:

If you are not from teaching background, kindergarten teaching is not as easy as you think. You may have mood swings or your kids might not be interested, be prepared. In that time its okay to take a break. Take a break and start slowly.

• Create routine:

For kids, creating routine may take time, when they are habituated they can follow it more than you. Create a routine for home school and let them understand that you will be the teacher for them. Initially try to make them sit for 15 minutes in hime school, and gradually increase the time. Now my daughter will be in home school for 1.30 hours. Generally I let her choose what she wants to do in the school. 

• Believe in your kid and have faith

Preschool kids take time to adapt to this new method, so have faith in your kids. They might get bored, as they will be only kid on the class. Say them after the pandemic they can join their friends. 

• Design your own syllubus:

Along with their curriculum, add extra curricular activities according to their intrest. Like I have added yoga, and music in her syllubus.

• Go creative:

Preschool kids love singing rhymes than sitting and writing. So create some games so that they can learn while playing.

I created a game of clapping alternate hands and saying numbers. 

The only things you need for home schooling are patience and creativity. Don't forget to appriciate your kid's efforts to cope up in this pandamic situation, give them a STAR. Let your little one stay safe at home and also learn at same time. 

GRANNY'S TALES-FOOD (PART-4)

 

 My granny about "Touch"

My granny about "Water"

My granny about "Sun"

Did your granny scolded you for not bathing before food? Did she scolded you for bathing after food? 

Almost everyone has this experience when granny was around. I already mentioned you my granny used to bath 3 times a day even in summer water scarcity. I used to pull her leg by saying "Just because of your bathing tradition, we got water scarcity".

She used to laugh heartily, "You should take bath before you cook, the taste will be effected by that. You know why prasadams given in temple are more delicious than our home made recipies,it is all because of good vibrations while making prasadam ".

The way she touches the vegetables or rice, was like she touches us(grand children), with such a love and affection. She makes finger licking food for everyone, even the veggies are bad. We couldnot get that taste with same ingredients and same process..That is the magic of grandmothers!!!!

She hated the idea of wasting food. She always said "If you were intrested to take food, then nothing will be extra dose", by placing one more ladle of rice into my plate. 

"Don't watch tv, while having meals!!! Concentrate on meals". It was the last time she warned me. I was very proud of my self at that time, for my multi tasking abilities (eating and watching TV at the same time).

But I was wrong!!! 

Nowadays everyone is taking about 'Consious eating', that was proposed by grannys long back. 

Concentration on food, helps in boosting your digestion.

She always said "Annam parabrahma swaroopam", means food is God!!

Eat the food with gratitude. 

She had restrictions while having food too. "Never speak bad words during eating, it will have effect on digestion. We are not dogs to fight during eating, let go your negetive emotions for now, after food you can be grumpy again" 

She used to fast on every ekadasi(11th day in Moon cycle). She used to take only liquids during the day, and surprisingly, she was active on that days. We used to have fatigues even after postponing snacks. For this her answer was spiritually connected," You should fast atleast 2 times a month, it makes you feel light. What else I want in this age!! Chanting the names of Him, will feed my soul"  

One day my friend came to my home, I was eating at that time. My granny was there, she almost thrown my friend out of the house, and seriously warned her not to come during meals time. I was embrassed at that time, immidietly I finished my lunch and ran behind my friend. I was furious on granny, and like everytime she shut my mouth with her magic. " Never allow others to come to your place of eating or sleeping, if they have bad vibrations, your life will be effected by their evil-eye", she said while cleansing evil eyes (Drusti) with rock salt.

I asked her, "Granny, why do you link everything to food!? You should not speak, you should concentrate, you need to eat out with good vibrations!!! Why all these?? "

"Because without food you cannot survive. And the food you take becomes You", she answered with her as usual graceful smile. 

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IS IT TIME FOR HOME SCHOOLING??

Are you studying kindergaten again? Don't know why you are sitting next to your littleones during online classes?? Even don't know why they need online classes for kindergarten?? Thinking of sending to school or not after lockdown?? Welcome to club of confusing momma!!!

The corona and lockdown has changed many things in our daily life, including our kids routine and their school life.

New way of teaching through online, new apps for them, are making children to sit infront of digital devices. They may need it, but it costs child's digital time.

If the kids are able to concentrate on what teachers are saying, those kids might be okay with online classes.

However when it comes to kindergarten, only a teacher's physical presence can make them sit there. It is almost impossible in online classes. They are building virtual world around kids. Can't we introduce real world to them, may be this is the right time.

It's crucial age for kids until 6 years, their brain power was built over time, but the inital foundation takes place during early ages.

Enthusiasm created by teachers and company of other kids are only reasons for toddlers to sit in a classroom. Online classes doesnot fulfill this requirement.

My point is why to force them to sit in front of a digital device and learn? We can easily grab their attention by or physical presence and teach them in a more practical ways.

Yes we are not trained teachers, but the mothers are the one who taught them to speak, talk, behave, eat everything till now. Why can't we teach them simple language and small chores?

Another advantage of home schooling is we can encourage them to learn local language/mother tongue and religious writings.

If you can teach them with more patience,

strong bonds can be created with kids.

Moreover we are not sure if we can send them to school even after lockdown. So why don't we use this time for home schooling? I'm not taking about working mothers here.  Because after lock down, mothers should go to office, home schooling will be out of question for them.

Let me discuss how home schooling will be.

Initially home schooling can be interesting,  but with time it is not as easy as it seems,  especially with toddlers. 

For that, mothers need a strong motivation and timely motivation for children.

Any project should have a strong plan and schedule. Being non professional teachers we can't always attract them to home school. This is where we need some experts opinion. You can get it from various sources like other teachers or internet.

So set schedule for kids, start with small, progress as you go, teach them learning is fun, lead them by example. Home schooling means constant learning, not only kids but also mothers.

Is it not the right time to home school them??

LOCK DOWN STORIES

Tik tikk..tik tikkk..tik tikkk.

I woke up lazily. "Even in lock down, is it necessary to wake up at 5.00AM??" My mind is suggesting me to go to bed.

In a slight confusion I woke up, for fresh air I went to my balcony. We have an apartment on the other side of the road and it is visible from our balcony.

That apartment's watch man is sweeping the road and its front area. We have large trees on the road side, so the dried leaves will accumlate so fast. 

I went back to my routine, and had a look at that apartment while sipping my ginger tea. That area was clean, there is no single dried leaf on the road or front area of that apartment. 

You can tell that he is very conscious and committed to that work, just by seeing that street. Whatever be the reason behind it, the area is clean. 

From that day I observed that part of the road was all clean by 6AM or 6.30 AM, even on weekends.

The whole world is in pandamic, everyone talking about depression by being at home. 

Everyone is saying this lockdown has decreased their willlingness to do their regular chores. 

When you are this much concsious about your work as the watchman, you can't be depressed.  

He excelled in street sweeping. No one can beat him in sweeping. This boosts some confidence in him right?? 

I never know he likes working as sweeper or not, still he is doing best and it was excellent. 

Some of you can argue "Is street sweeping a great deed, why are you so obsessed with it??"

But I learnt a lesson.

When you can't love what you are doing, how can you love what you want to do???

The sentence is little bit confusing, read it again!!

 

ITS OKAY!!!

As lockdown continued, my social media feed is flooded with my friends and family latest updates. 

Almost all your friends and familes are also posting their hobby updates, learning new hobbies, brushing their old hobbies, learning new languages or spending a productive time. 

I am really happy what they are doing, and I wish they continue.

I have no problem with their productive plans, but my shoutout is for the people who are not spending time productively, as per the social media noms.

Its okay if you are not learning some course in this lockdown.

Its okay if you are not doing any excercise/yoga for physical fitness.

Its okay if you are not doing any diet, having your meal which is satisfying for your tummy.

Its okay if you are watching films in your room.

Its okay if you are playing with your kids.

Its okay if you are piled up with househols chores and office work.

Its okay if your house is messy.

Its okay if you shout at kids.

Its okay if you were allowing screen time for them.

Everyone is in lockdown situation.No one knows how to handle this. Even if your friends are spending their time productively, don't let them rush you. They also may have difficult situations, but they wont post them on social media. 

So be like what you want, be non-productive, be a non-multitasker, be a messy mom, handle meltdowns of your baby while you are answering a office call. Live life one day at a time.!!!

GRANNY'S TALES- SUN (PART-3)

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Welcome back to Granny's tales.

This month I am going to tell you how my Granny is associated with Sun. 

My grandmother used to call the Sun as "Pratyaksha Narayanudu" which means "Visible God".

She designed her chores according to Sun's movement. 

Her every action is useful for today's situation. Especially when this Covid-19 is extending its hands all over world. 

In her total life she never woke up after sun rise. Many of your grand mothers and grand fathers used to say "Never sleep after sunrise" remember?? 

The modern science got to know our ancestral rituals are way for healthy life. My granny used to say "When you brush your teeth after sunrise your teeth will be broken."
"How come sun can break my tooth? if I am aged, then naturally I will lose my teeth, why to worry to wake up early? This was my argument.
Till her day of death, she never fell ill. She always said "Sun is energy. Pray to him".

 Her idea was to make me spend more time with morning sun. But I used to spend it on bed. 

When I came to know the positivity and freshness in the morning sun, daily I am remembering my granny.
Everyday she woke up before sunrise, mostly at 5 AM, finishes her bathing, and cleaning of house, and started cooking for all of us. Her positive nature reflected in food too. Not a single day her food was tasteless.
One more thing she always insisted was, cleaning the house before sunrise.

My granny termed cleaning house after sunrise as"Daridram", which she probably meant Negetivity in house.

Whem she was in her late 60's, she was unable to sleep during night, however her wake up time didn't changed. 

Every day she used to study "Aditya hridayam" and made me learn that. She always said "Aditya hridayam brings you health and happiness. Whenever your mind is disturbed read this one, you will be relieved from stress. Believe in God, if you cannot believe what you see infront of your eye, how can you believe power within you? Sun is creating food for you, with his power, pray him"

Her home made sun-dried chips were the best chips.

Even she used sun for getting rid of aroma in jars, melt her solidified ghee. 

She insisted her grandson who was born with jaundice to expose to morning sunlight for few days right after he was born.

Vitamin D is best medicine for children who were born with jaundice. She knows it as simple act,just by spending some time under Sun.

My granny is a middle class house wife from an orthodox family. Her educational background is also not strong. But she knows how to make her family healthy through natural resources. 

What did your Granny say about Sun?

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WHAT THIS LOCK DOWN IS TRYING TO TEACH YOU?

It's been long time, that I posted a new blog post.  Due to this lock down, I got more time to spend with family.  So I preferred to enjoy with my child,than to blog.

Let me share what I did and learnt in these 2 weeks. 

1. Many talents: During this lock down,  me, my daughter, my husband got to know that we have many talents hidden. Without moving out of the home, we know how to use our time effectively and productively.
2. Screen time: I  learnt that screen time for children is not as bad as you think, especially during lock down. They need 3rd person other than mom and dad.
3. Time: You have time to clean inch by inch of your house, and you can involve how family members too. This is the time you can learn many courses, or new languages. Make it most!!
4. Chores: Chores increase while everyone at home. You cannot get a me time, or a power nap. Every 1 hour or so, kids or husband will ask for something to eat or drink. Additional to regular dishes, these dishes will add. Isn't it obvious to get frustrated!!!
5. Frustration: Also with time and chores,  frustration levels also rise up. You can't differentiate your reason for frustration. But we found ways to overcome this frustration. No one will be happy at home you are frustrated.
6. Physical and mental strength: Lock down period is for our maids too. You might have experienced that you are physically strengthened. The patience levels suddenly rose up, just because you can't shout at your helpless kids, who can't go outside. It may be for our own good, but it is like punishment for kids.  If they can stay at home, we can too.
7. Kids:  They gradually understood the monster named "corona" is wandering around, we shouldn't step outside. Even their creative skills are coming out. My daughter is designing new games to play.
8. Real colours: You will get to know how your partner, kids behave 24/7. How he works, what are their temper trigger points, sure we can closely observe. This is time to know each other well. 
9. Money: Financial planning had become more serious issue even at home. Junk foods, restaurant visits, tours trips has come to an end for this year. Most of the finances saved by this way. But we are still not sure how long will this lockdown continues, and finacial position of the country will not be same as before. So we need to plan for emergency funds, and our financial stability. See lockdown is teaching many things.

Even though we are frustrated, restless, but it is the time we can use to look into ourselves and understand us. And we need to try to be positive in this total lockdown.

What are your experiences in lock down??

INDOOR ACTIVITIES FOR 2-5 YEARS AGE GROUP KIDS

I would like to gather all indoor activities that can be useful for kids in 2-5 years of age.Some are my own ideas, some are taken from internet, and some are my daughters school activities. I thought it is useful for mothers during this lockdown. 

1. Coloring: The easiest way to attract the toddlers
2. Memory game: Place 3-4 items/toys in a tray. Make your toddler remember what they are, place a cloth on the items and carefully remove one of the item, without their knowledge. Let them guess which item was removed.
3. Frozen dance: Play some energitic music, let your kid dance to that music, you also dance if required,and freeze your movements, when the music stops suddenly. 
4. Mis match: Take 4 pairs of items,/toys, place it in two rows with mismatch sequence.  Ask this toddler to match them accordingly. 
   
5. Round alphabets: Arite alphabets on small pieces of paper,and arrange them in a circular shape. Let the music start and your kid run around. When the music stops, kid should stop, then the kid need to identify the letter and ask them to say the related word to that alphabet.
6. Find the color: Make sure you placed the colours visible to your kid. Ask them to bring specific colored item to you. Kids will run around to search that.
7. Hopscotch: This activity is simply favorite thing for many kids.  You just need to draw lines for jumping. You can make them more interesting with your creativity.
8. Treasure hunt: For this you don't need garden or open places. Draw the outline of your house/room, hide some of their toys or daily things in the room and ask them to find out. You can even list out the things you were hidden. For reference see the picture below. 
   
9. Puppet show: All you need for a puppet show is plastic/wooden spoons, wool and all fix gum. You can create whatever charecters you want.
   
10. Hide and seek: My favourite game for gaining some time for moms.
11. Word/alphabet search: Write random alphabets and ask kids to find purticular alphabet or word. Yes you can create your own word search for your kids.
    
12. Follow the lines: Make your kids take a round all over your home. Draw arrow lines directing to their favourite toy, with some obstacles like chairs or tables. They surely enjoy the process.
13. Basket and ball: Take any available basket or vessel so that your kid can throw some paper balls or small toys. Score them and encourage.
14. Crafting: You team up with little scientists, they can make you do miracles!!!
    
15. Play imaginary roles: Kids are more influenced by cartoon charecters, play with them. Our favourite game is Dora and explorer, myself Boots in that play, Dora role played by my daughter.
16. Make play doughs: Use wheat flour or all purpose flour to make the doughs, and if food color is available, you use it too.
17. Try music: Try what kind of sound comes from an empty glass and glass full of water. Try to create music from that. Who knows, you may become an expert in Jaltarang, after this lock down!!!
18. Bubble bath: Stay at home is not alone safe, you need to disinfect the home. Take help of your kids and wash their toys in bubble bath. Sure they enjoy the bubbles.
19. Board games: Board games are ever green games. Do you think they cannot understand board rules. Let go of rules for some time and play with them. You get a heatful of laughter!!!
20. My Kitchen rules: When is the last time you truly enjoyed cooking?? Dont worry about the rotis/dosas shape, enjoy cooking with your kid's help. 

These are only suggestions, you can design more games with your creativity!!

10 APARICHIT MOMENTS WITH MOTHERS

Children and Mothers love for each other cannot be measurable. Mother love leads them to talk them in two types. 

They want us to do certain things for limited period of time. After certain age,  their multiple personality will come out and parents doesnot want us to do the same thing. I am not criticizing them,  but their unconditional love for us, force them to do so. These are some situations,  where mother's duality come out.

1. When you are a kid, your mother hated when you eat your meals slowly.. "You need to have your meals quickly. No one would wait you for hours". This is a common point where moms lose their temper. When you are in teens or after 20's, you will have your meals in a hurry(really quick). Then also you cannot satisfy your mother. "Have your breakfast in peace." Is this not Aparichitudu moments??

2. "Dont roam around all the time. You are may bump into someone or trip over" Did you hear this dialouge many times especially during summer holidays. When you grow up and have some stability in your body(Parents often misunderstand this as laziness) "Can you move your ass dear? You are sitting in that couch from past 5 hours..I said UP!!"

3. "Let me help you in brushing/while taking a bath" mothers say this all the time to kids, when kids are eager to explore how to brush/ how to take a bath. After some years same mother would shout "WEEKENDS DOESN'T MEAN IT IS HOLIDAY FOR TAKING BATH OR BRUSH, GO RIGHT NOW!! " This time your are not interested in brushing our bathing. But your mother will be completely opposite to our feelings.

4. "When are going to help your mother while you are a kid,she used to say "No need dear, go and play/study" she will say it affectionatly. After 20 years " Dont know how to prepare even tea, what will you do after your marriage?? Come help me in the kitchen".

5. Mothers will be upset when you are going 1st time to school, but she herself wanted you to go there. Two completely opposite thoughts filled in their mind.

6. When kids are not interested to eat the meals, mother say "I am not going to feed to at any cost..Eat by yourself". While you are leaving to office in hurry she comes to you and says " I can see you are in hurry, let me feed you some breakfast". Complete opposite talks!!!

7. When you are in school, homework is the worst thing happens every evening. Your mothers may bribe you for doing it. "We can go to circus/cinema this weekend if you complete this homework". The same weekend senario changes while you are going to office. " Lets go to a theatre atleast this weekend, not netflix again." 

8. "You are making mess everytime." Every mother complains this. After when you leave for work or study, she will again say "No one to make mess dear, clothes are in wardrobe, everything is organized.I am missing your mess". See, she misses our mess too. 

9. "You can do whatever you can after you get a job/after marriage". You know the next phase also, "You are not listening to me"

10. Iconic one: Mothers will be like "Don't talk to stranger". Also mothers "Marry this stranger". 

What are the aparichit moments with your mother?? List them in comments section.

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20 IDEAS HELP YOU SURVIVE WHEN YOU ARE AT HOME

Corona out broke!! The minimum precaution is to stay at home and wash your hands. Children and working people are at home. It is different phase of life when everyone are at home in this busy life, that too for a long period. 

Here are some ideas that will help you to overcome this time. 

1. Make the meals simple ones:

Every weekend's meals would be special, but now try not to visit restaurants or crowdy places. Also do not get worried about preparing the meals. Keep it simple. Simple is new different. 

2. Take naps

No hurry for office or schools or colleges. Take more 30 min to get up. Or take an afternoon nap.

3. Play the fictional games

Are you bored of working from home?? Play fictional games like catching zombies or if you have kids you can play "Dora the explorer" or "Peppa pig" fictional plays. Or you can play many board games. These things are not childish,  these ladies makes you really work one another without mobiles or television. 

4. Get rid of cobwebs:

It is your home, so take care of your home a little. Get rid of cobwebs. We also can do that.

5. Declutter:

This period will be right chance to declutter your room, wardrobe or mobile.

6. Try to generate new ideas for your interior decoration

You have plenty of time, you can think many possible ways to think about how interior decoration. 

7. Organize your room/wardrobe/total home

Stop the idea of postponing the organizing of your home. This time will not come again.

8. There are so many movies or shows you wanted to watch..watch now

9. Workout at home/do simple yoga:

There are so many YouTube tutorials on how to do workout/yoga at home. Try one of these. Else you can walk around your house/cellar.

10. Print:

We take lots of pics now a days. Move some printable into one folder. Likewise you can declutter your hard drives and print your memories too. Looking at our loved ones in photo frame is different from seeing them as our mobile wallpaper. 

11. Grow a garden

Take a plastic bottle and make some holes under it. Fill it with soil and some methi/dhaniya(fenugreek/coriander) seeds. Even this is enough for one meal. Eating what you grow, can give you pleasure

12. Try different hair styles 

There is no one who will judge you for doing this.  Neither colleagues no friends will know what you are doing. Take this as a chance to change your hairstyle. 

13. Read

You can read peacefully, with no tension for tomorrow.  

14. Clean your vehicle

Skip car wash/bike wash for this month. Clean your vehicle with your hands. If necessary involve your family too.

15. Write an email to your future self through futureme.org

I once used this for my birthday. After that I forgot, suddenly one day a mail has popped up from me which I was written years ago. So write an email to your future self today itself.

16. Call your friends

When did the last time you called your friends and spoke about your happy memories? Is it on their last birthday??It is time to ditch the whats app messages and speak to them.

17. Meditate

Get time for meditation too. 

18. Plenty of time.so you can take self care.

Why to go to parlor when you can do the saloon services at home. We have time, so it can save money also. Try manicure or pedicure at home.

19. Try not to get attached to digital devices more. It can build you stress at home. Everyone looking at mobiles even when they are near, cannot help you in this holidays. If some one is watching TV go straight in front of TV and block that, so that they might talk to you in person.

20. Spend more time with kids. You can teach them songs, decluttering, life lessons, creative ways to talk,and you learn more from them, what not!!  So use this time efficiently!! 

Stay away from corona, stay close to loved ones.

Here are some more ideas to do with kids!! 

Here is my another blog for ideas without internet!!

Stay safe...

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